Thursday, April 30, 2009

Eff the Wagon!

First it was Oprah falling off the wagon, now it's Kirstie Alley talking to Oprah about falling off the wagon. I have to admit, 10 minutes into the show and my back is up. The day the Jenny Craig person stopped coming to her house for weigh-ins, Ms. Alley fell off the wagon. This neither shocks nor surprises me. I'm going to go out on a limb and say, no shout, THERE IS NO BLOODY WAGON, THERE IS ONLY YOUR LIFE!

I wholly believe that the inability to lose weight (or lose weight and keep it off) has nothing at all to do with food and everything to do with wrong thinking. In order to get to the place I am right now I had to adjust a lifetime of thinking wrong thoughts about weight, about food, about me. Thinking that being "on a diet" was a solution, that cutting out entire food groups was a good idea, that the minute the diet is over that I could go back to eating whatever the heck I wanted, scale be damned. Thinking that once I "blew my diet" I'd pig out just because I deserved it. Thinking that food was love and comfort. Thinking that I wasn't really harming my health by eating crap. Thinking that being thin was the answer to all my problems, hopes and prayers. Thinking that it had to be all or nothing. Thinking that if I fell off the wagon I could get back on tomorrow. I wasted too many tomorrows thinking like that. I'm sure Oprah and Kirstie Ally have as well.

If you're struggling with weight issues, take an honest look at your thinking before you tackle the pantry. Small, manageable changes one day at a time and you will get your life back. There is no wagon, only life.


  1. I could not have said this better myself! I finally realize that this is a lifelong committment and I am OK with it! Small changes add up over time for big results, that are sustainable!

  2. You tell them!! You are absolutely right!!!

  3. Hi Andra,
    Thank you for being so real. I really appreciate it. I so appreciate that you have reflected and have been so honest and real with yourself... those same things you reflect on are very similar to my own issues. I had to learn that my "weight" issue (20-30lbs over weight) was really an emotional issue.

    Thanks for being honest. I love it :)

  4. Andra,

    As a professional counselor and certified personal trainer I see this phenomenon all the time. Clients believe all they need to do is lose the weight and everything else will fall into line. NOT! Changing your thinking about food and weight--by practicing healthy strategies over and over until they are automatic--is the answer. Yes it takes motivation and commitment but so do many other areas of our lives (parenting, marriage, career). For whatever reason, these areas don't get the bad rap that living healthy does. The fact that you are aware of what needs to be done and are doing it is fantastic.