Monday, July 19, 2010

Eating in Secret vs. Eating Alone

I was driving home from work last night, it was after 11:30pm. Everything was closed as you expect late on a Sunday night. Except, of course, for the fast food drive-thrus. It gave me flashbacks to all the times I would leave work and head straight for the bright lights and the promise of large quantities of hot grease, salt and carbs for cheap money. All so I could scarf it down without anyone seeing or knowing.

Sure, sometimes we have to eat alone. I eat breakfast alone every day and eat most of my meals alone when Rob travels for work. But eating alone is entirely different from eating in secret.

What's so bad about secret eating? If you don't want anyone to see what you are eating, it's probably the worst crap you could be putting into your body. If you don't want anyone to see how much you are eating, you are probably eating too much. But it doesn't count when no one sees, right? Wrong! The shame and self-loathing associated with secret eating is far worse than any prying eyes could cause. Not to mention the abuse your body takes during a secret binge.

Eating in secret is unequivocally one of the worst things we can do for our health, physical and emotional. Shame, guilt and lying do hatchet job on self-esteem and large quantities of junk food eaten quickly is just horrible on the body (reflux, anyone?)

Breaking this habit is not easy but it can be done. No more drive-thrus, FULL STOP! If I was going to eat fast food like a Chik-Fil-A lunch or a Mc'D's breakfast for a treat it would be in the company of others. I also stopped eating in the car. Other than a healthy snack when I'm on the go, I don't eat in the car. I love that my car doesn't smell like french fries anymore. When I eat alone, I make sure that my portions and the quality of food that I'm eating are something that I would be proud to share in the company of others.


  1. Thanks for posting this

    I am a recovering secret eater. I used to wait for everyone else in the house to go to bed before I would binge. And I have done quite a few "drive-by"s in my time too. I'm not much of a cook so this was my answer to "I can't cook" mindset.

    I have to go out of the office for my lunch today. I am glad I will be going with your words resonating in my head. I will pick up a healthy salad and bring it back to eat at my desk, in front of all my co-workers.

    No more secret binging!


  2. Eating in Secret vs. Eating alone, this post really hit home for me in many ways. Love your comment about the car not smelling of french fries!!! Oh, I wish I didn't know what you mean by that one!! LOL. That was me too, I cleaned out my car and lit some sage when I started eating healthy in hopes of never binge eating in my car again. So far so good. :)

  3. good post on Eating in Secret vs. Eating Alone, really love the last sentence. I try and accomplish that everytime I make a meal for my family.

  4. This is something I really struggle with as I am on the road for work three or more days a week.

    I started putting my purse in the trunk and that has helped some.

    Thanks for posting!

  5. Secret eating gives that impression of guilt and that certain foods are bad. It's a hard concept to give up, that's for sure!

  6. Your Eating in Secret vs. Eating alone really hit home with me. I haven't made a "date" with myself to go through the drive-in or supermarket take-out section and then bring it home when everybody's out for the day in many months. I even wrapped up the trash and took it straight to the waste can outside! No evidence. I don't miss the crappy way it made me feel. No food was worth that.

    Thanks for saying all so well.