Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Verbal Abuse

You look fat today. Look at those cottage cheese thighs. Ugh, bad hair and skin day! Those jeans make your ass look huge.  How could you have eaten all that food?  What a pig!

Can you imagine saying such things to someone you care about, perhaps your Mother or your best friend?  Can you imagine hearing those words flying at you from a trusted friend or family member?  No, of course not.  Yet we have no qualms about saying these things to ourselves every day or even multiple times during the day.  

Even if you're saying it to yourself, it is still considered verbal abuse.  This  pattern of behavior can seriously interfere with a person's healthy emotional development.  A single exposure to verbal abuse can be enough to negatively impact self-esteem, emotional well-being, and physical state.
I do it, I call myself greedy and lazy.  I often have a good moan about my loose skin (especially that on my upper arms) whenever I get the chance.  What about you, do you find yourself saying negative things when you're in the kitchen, in a restaurant or looking at yourself in the mirror?  It doesn't take many instances of this abuse before we start believing it and stop believing that we are worthy, beautiful, smart and caring people.  How can we care for others when we verbally abuse ourselves? 

It's time to stop verbally abusing ourselves and start building ourselves up. Positive self talk can work wonders, it can turn the day around.  There's this person I know on the Internet.  I follow her on Facebook and Twitter because every morning she greets the day in a positive way, it's a reminder to me and it always makes me smile.

Start your day with a positive thought about yourself.  Smile at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that your smile is gorgeous and only yours.  That your hair is shiny and looks fabulous.  Tell yourself that no matter what the day will bring, you will face it with that gorgeous smile and make the best of it.  Tell yourself that you are beautiful and that you are worthy.  Because you are!


  1. What a great post! Thanks for reminding me to be nice to myself!

  2. What a great post! Thanks for reminding me to be nice to myself!

  3. So true. I didn't have lasting results until I learned to be kind to myself.

  4. So true. I didn't have lasting results until I started being kind to myself.

  5. THANK YOU for this wonderful reminder to be kind to ourselves.
    It is so easy to get caught up in what we still haven't accomplished as far as our bodies go. Definitely need to work on complimenting myself on what I HAVE done. I'm so free with compliments to others, but very stingy with myself. New season, new attitude!